Parenting Plan: The Schedule
Every family situation is different, but below are a few tips and sample calendar worksheets: There are endless variations for parenting timeshare, or the amount of time a child spends with each parent, so we have simply provided a few examples below and a blank worksheet for you to experiment. To minimize disruption, it is […]
Are You Divorcing the Same Person You Married?
It seems obvious. Of course I’m divorcing the man/woman I married. Who else would I be divorcing? But the trauma of divorce can often play tricks on us and frequently we adopt an irrational expectation that the person we have been in conflict with during the marriage will behave differently in divorce. If you are married to someone […]
Mother’s Day Divorce
How to Survive and Thrive on Your First Mother’s Day as a Divorced Parent Happy Mother’s Day! We celebrate Mothers on this day and every day. When you were married, Mother’s Day was all about you. Breakfast in bed, a trip to the spa for a massage and a manicure, a family brunch, or perhaps […]
Divorce – Just another example of a natural disaster
We recognize that the conversation around divorce is fragmented, emotional, confusing, and reflects the general chaos that prevails in every household going through the dreaded process. Did anyone really grow up and imagine falling in love, having a storybook wedding, buying a house, bringing home a baby, celebrating romantic anniversaries, discovering addiction issues, uncovering personality […]
Divorce = Uncomfortable Change
“We are getting a divorce.” Did you really just say that out loud? There are no “top 10” lists or spiritually enlightened comments that I can offer to calm the tsunami of emotion and mental gymnastics that are now flooding your body and brain. For some, it is the shattering of how one defined oneself, […]
No divorce should ever end up in court
It is easy to say with a flourish of the pen, “no divorce should ever end up in court,” but in order to understand and consider viable options for high conflict divorce, the ones that end up in court, we must deconstruct the fundamentals. Divorce is about money and children. But, not just in the […]
Your First Father’s Day as a Divorced Father
Father’s Day is upon us and for divorcing families it represents yet another shift in what was to what is. The challenge, as with everything divorce, is to embrace the new what is. If you were lucky enough to have a supportive spouse during at least some of your marriage, you probably remember Father’s Day […]
Summer Brings Unique Challenges in Divorce
The freedom from routine and structure that we love about summer isn’t always as welcome when in the middle of a divorce. Summer introduces a whole new set of challenges that for medium and high conflict families can bring even more chaos to the day-to-day experience of divorce. The school year provides a routine for […]
OMG, He/She met with a lawyer!
I will frequently answer a client call and hear a scream into the phone, “He / She MET WITH A LAWYER!” I even had a client’s spouse file for divorce the second he discovered that she had simply consulted with one. Why is everyone so afraid of lawyers? After the scream has subsided, my response […]
What We Can Learn From Outrageous Divorce Stories
Everyone has one. And yet, they might be less meaningful in the legal system than you might expect. When you are in the middle of a difficult divorce the line between normalcy and insanity often becomes blurred. Can this REALLY be happening? Everyone has a story, and many contain salacious details you wouldn’t believe. Some […]